What do Middle Schoolers Worry About? What do Their Parents Worry About?
According to Dr. Devin Leman in his book Planet Middle School, here’s what middle-schoolers say they worry about:
“Embarrassing myself at school because I do something dumb.”
“If the group I hang out with would still like me if they knew the real me.”
“That my teacher will post by bad grade in front of everybody.”
“Getting teased at school because I’m different.”
“Being singled out and having kids share at me.”
“My parents embarrassing me in front of my friends.”
Notice that each statement has to do with how they appear in front of a peer.
Here’s what parents of middle-schoolers say they worry about:
“That I caught him lying about where he was after school, and I don’t know how to confront him without him blowing a fuse.”
“That he’ll get into drugs or drinking.”
That she’ll get talked into having sex or get pregnant.
That he’ll be influenced by the wrong group.
That my child might get mad at me and run away.
That he’s a loner and can’t seem to make friends.
That she gets teased about her weight.
That he’s not safe on the way to school, at school, and after school (so many school shootings these days).
That she doesn’t get that how she dresses attracts the wrong kind of boys.
That he acts depressed, and I don’t know what to do about it.
Dr. Devin Leman is an internationally renowned psychologist and New York Times Bestselling Author of more than 30 books.