What do Middle Schoolers Worry About?

What do Middle Schoolers Worry About? What do Their Parents Worry About?

According to Dr. Devin Leman in his book Planet Middle School, here’s what middle-schoolers say they worry about:

“Embarrassing myself at school because I do something dumb.”

“If the group I hang out with would still like me if they knew the real me.”

“That my teacher will post by bad grade in front of everybody.”

“Getting teased at school because I’m different.”

“Being singled out and having kids share at me.”

“My parents embarrassing me in front of my friends.”

Notice that each statement has to do with how they appear in front of a peer. 

Here’s what parents of middle-schoolers say they worry about:

“That I caught him lying about where he was after school, and I don’t know how to confront him without him blowing a fuse.”

“That he’ll get into drugs or drinking.”

That she’ll get talked into having sex or get pregnant.

That he’ll be influenced by the wrong group.

That my child might get mad at me and run away.

That he’s a loner and can’t seem to make friends.

That she gets teased about her weight.

That he’s not safe on the way to school, at school, and after school (so many school shootings these days).

That she doesn’t get that how she dresses attracts the wrong kind of boys.

That he acts depressed, and I don’t know what to do about it.

Dr. Devin Leman is an internationally renowned psychologist and New York Times Bestselling Author of more than 30 books.

SoMD CAN: A Resource for Parents of High School Students

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We are lucky to have an awesome organization here in our area: Southern Maryland College Access Network or SoMD CAN.  Their mission is to increase the college-going rate among the region’s high school students with a specific focus on those students who are first generation college-bound, underserved populations and who are academically talented. Their goals are to offer opportunities through our curriculum-based program to build awareness of and preparedness for the college admissions and financial aid process.

Need more information about Financial Aid for your 11th and 12th grader? SoMD CAN is partnering with CCPS to facilitate Financial Aid Night at local high schools.

Session times are 6:30-8:30pm :
October 24th- Huntingtown High School
November 9th- Patuxent High School

Additionally, SoMD CAN’s website offers

College 101: Part I: Best Fit  and College 101: Part II: How Much Am I Responsible For?

Check them out!  http://somdcan.org/

 

Struggles That Make Kids Stronger

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Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD, is a clinical psychologist, author, and speaker, based in Princeton, NJ recently posted an excellent piece in Psychology Today about  how kids learn resilience by overcoming ordinary suffering:

“It’s natural for us parents to want to protect our children from pain and suffering, but if we rush to rescue children from problems that they could solve on their own, we prevent them from learning how to cope. Well-intentioned comments like, “Here, let me do it,” “I’ll talk to the teacher for you,” or “I’ll take care of it,” tell children, “You can’t handle this.”

Sometimes the best thing we can do for our kids is to allow them to struggle. This helps our children develop important life skills, and it also shows our faith in their ability to grow and learn.

Here are five character-building struggles that our kids can and should handle on their own. We can help by asking relevant questions or expressing support and understanding, but the solutions for these problems need to come from children themselves.”

The full article can be read here.